Comments on: Too Little Time for Friendship http://notofmymaking.com/blog/2009/11/02/too-little-time-for-friendship/ from survivor to thriver Wed, 09 Jun 2010 03:12:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Sherry http://notofmymaking.com/blog/2009/11/02/too-little-time-for-friendship/comment-page-1/#comment-660 Sherry Sun, 29 Nov 2009 12:58:55 +0000 http://notofmymaking.com/blog/2009/11/02/too-little-time-for-friendship/#comment-660 She probably would have been very happy with what you wrote about her, Margaret. And who knows -- it may be that she does know. She probably would have been very happy with what you wrote about her, Margaret. And who knows — it may be that she does know.

]]> By: Margaret http://notofmymaking.com/blog/2009/11/02/too-little-time-for-friendship/comment-page-1/#comment-649 Margaret Thu, 05 Nov 2009 04:00:26 +0000 http://notofmymaking.com/blog/2009/11/02/too-little-time-for-friendship/#comment-649 One Survivor, Not only the old messages but since we were so focused on survival we missed out on many important developmental experiences. I spent my adolescence holed up in my bedroom avoiding the bullying of my classmates and parents. One Survivor,

Not only the old messages but since we were so focused on survival we missed out on many important developmental experiences. I spent my adolescence holed up in my bedroom avoiding the bullying of my classmates and parents.

]]> By: Margaret http://notofmymaking.com/blog/2009/11/02/too-little-time-for-friendship/comment-page-1/#comment-648 Margaret Thu, 05 Nov 2009 03:58:03 +0000 http://notofmymaking.com/blog/2009/11/02/too-little-time-for-friendship/#comment-648 Joanne, your eloquent comment reminds me of a Walt Whitman poem, Once I pass'd through a populous city imprinting my brain for future use with its shows, architecture, customs, traditions Yet now of all that city I remember only a woman I casually met there who detain'd me for love of me, .. Joanne, your eloquent comment reminds me of a Walt Whitman poem,
Once I pass’d through a populous city imprinting my brain for future use with its shows, architecture, customs, traditions
Yet now of all that city I remember only a woman I casually met there who detain’d me for love of me, ..

]]> By: One Survivor http://notofmymaking.com/blog/2009/11/02/too-little-time-for-friendship/comment-page-1/#comment-647 One Survivor Thu, 05 Nov 2009 00:45:19 +0000 http://notofmymaking.com/blog/2009/11/02/too-little-time-for-friendship/#comment-647 I have seen that difficulty MANY times amongst survivors. It is so sad. It takes a LOT for us to be able to trust one another. It is a challenge to work through the old messages we grew up with. I have seen that difficulty MANY times amongst survivors. It is so sad. It takes a LOT for us to be able to trust one another. It is a challenge to work through the old messages we grew up with.

]]> By: Joanne http://notofmymaking.com/blog/2009/11/02/too-little-time-for-friendship/comment-page-1/#comment-645 Joanne Wed, 04 Nov 2009 06:36:55 +0000 http://notofmymaking.com/blog/2009/11/02/too-little-time-for-friendship/#comment-645 I remember them from your book party. Indeed, she was a friendly, personable woman. This is a lovely tribute. It serves as a reminder of the fragility and fleetingness of life. It affects all of us. I'm always startled anew when I think how people come into our lives and touch us in some way, then go so suddenly leaving us wishing we had more time. This makes me believe it's even more valuable to appreciate the time we did have and recall it with gratitude. I remember them from your book party. Indeed, she was a friendly, personable woman. This is a lovely tribute. It serves as a reminder of the fragility and fleetingness of life. It affects all of us. I’m always startled anew when I think how people come into our lives and touch us in some way, then go so suddenly leaving us wishing we had more time. This makes me believe it’s even more valuable to appreciate the time we did have and recall it with gratitude.

]]> By: Margaret http://notofmymaking.com/blog/2009/11/02/too-little-time-for-friendship/comment-page-1/#comment-644 Margaret Tue, 03 Nov 2009 20:30:05 +0000 http://notofmymaking.com/blog/2009/11/02/too-little-time-for-friendship/#comment-644 Thanks for your kind response. It can often be difficult to build close relationships with abuse survivors. Our distrust of others and confusion about who is safe and who is not and our fear of rejection and abandonment often gets in the way as it did with Kathy and me. Thanks for your kind response. It can often be difficult to build close relationships with abuse survivors. Our distrust of others and confusion about who is safe and who is not and our fear of rejection and abandonment often gets in the way as it did with Kathy and me.

]]> By: One Survivor http://notofmymaking.com/blog/2009/11/02/too-little-time-for-friendship/comment-page-1/#comment-642 One Survivor Tue, 03 Nov 2009 15:27:54 +0000 http://notofmymaking.com/blog/2009/11/02/too-little-time-for-friendship/#comment-642 Wow! This made me cry. It also makes me think. Who is in my life that I might be letting slip by? Thank you for the reminder that we need to get...and keep...our priorities straight. Your getting together with her would not have changed the damage done to her body. I know you know that. But I do understand how you wish you could have been there more for her during her last year here. I understand your regrets because I have my own. *sigh* sending you safe love and gentle hugs, if you want them. Wow! This made me cry. It also makes me think. Who is in my life that I might be letting slip by?

Thank you for the reminder that we need to get…and keep…our priorities straight.

Your getting together with her would not have changed the damage done to her body. I know you know that. But I do understand how you wish you could have been there more for her during her last year here. I understand your regrets because I have my own. *sigh*

sending you safe love and gentle hugs, if you want them.

]]> By: Carol Welch http://notofmymaking.com/blog/2009/11/02/too-little-time-for-friendship/comment-page-1/#comment-641 Carol Welch Tue, 03 Nov 2009 08:03:34 +0000 http://notofmymaking.com/blog/2009/11/02/too-little-time-for-friendship/#comment-641 What a beautiful tribute to Kathy. Tears and hope, ~carol What a beautiful tribute to Kathy.

Tears and hope,
~carol

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